“People think I am a strong, happy person but they don't know the pain behind the strength and the scars behind the smile” (unknown)
At various stages in all of our lives, we may have endured a season of great pain and sadness. The kind where breathing hurts and you have to hold onto your chest as you gasp for breaths between tears because your heart is shattered. Our reasons for our seasons may differ, but the one thing we share in common is not being a stranger to pain. There is no cure or way of just erasing it. It sticks until we allow ourselves to heal.
Healing however, is not that simple. You see when you have a cut and you clean it up and allow it to heal, and the healing proceeds beautifully until one day whilst peeling onions when you cut yourself again. On the exact same wound, that first cut will once again be exposed. It will be fragile and will hurt more than before because you are cutting the same piece of skin again.
The very same thing goes for us as a people. We find ourselves in the process of healing and we start feeling better, lighter like a weight has been lifted but then life happens and we once again find ourselves at the same place. Sitting with the same kind of pain, broken and scarred, however this time around does not make it easier. It still hurts, in fact it might hurt more and may require more time to work through it. The key is to take as much time as you need, do not be hasty about your healing process as some days will be better than others. Everyday will come with its own challenges, the important part is that you remember who you are apart from the pain. Do not allow the pain to become you, instead let it be apart of you, a part of your story.
It takes a lot of hard work and a strong will to truly allow yourself to heal. It requires honesty and allowing yourself to feel hurt, to cry, to be angry. The important part is not to wallow in it for too long, to not allow it to turn into bitterness.
Healing from pain is a 3 part series, so tomorrow and Wednesday will be a continuation of today's blog. If you would like to know how to deal with emotional pain and the healing process, look out for tomorrow's blog.
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